When I received an invitation to a a yearly charity ball, I knew exactly that I was going to wear one of my samples. Long or short selves, with voluminous skirt, accompanied by simple sandals but The Row. Maybe a sash to make it more party like. Hair up.
My best friend wasn’t convinced. For the record- I never ask anyone’s opinion on my outfit unless it’s my stylish mother and I only ever listed to her. But people will do that to you, though- they will offer unsolicited advice and get annoyed when you take it on board.
My friend was becoming increasingly irritated that I wasn’t taking her suggestions into account. “But it’s not dressy enough- she said- you could wear to the office”. “I can wear it to the office and to a ball- I’ve designed it that way”- I replied. She wasn’t giving up. I was planning on wearing barely there sandals from The Row, a recent birthday gift to myself. She didn’t like the pairing, preferring I wore something silver or gold, or as a last result- black classic stilettos from Jimmy Choo, which were languishing in my closet ever since I mostly stopped wearing heels.
But I knew how I wanted to look and none of her-well meaning- suggestions had any place in my look. I couldn’t compromise for the sake of a party. I knew I wouldn’t feel myself in sequins and sparkly shoes, even if I were to look very different from other women at the ball.
At the end of course I wore what I planned on from the start. Even my friend had to admit that I looked great (here goes modest me ;)). I felt chic, classy, effortless- and myself.
So when Garance Dore recently wrote a post about becoming radical, it resonated so much with me. She talked about people and time, how making conscious choices who she spent time with and who she observed on social media made her life a much better one. Even though she didn’t talk about style, for me it was in the style department that I realised I became a radical. I refuse to compromise no matter what, I don’t pay attention to shiny new distractions even if they are all over Instagram and I only ever chose pieces which align with my vision. There aren’t many so I don’t shop much. I insist on purity of my vision (how is this for radical) and I learned to recognise “almost there” items. The result is that I look exactly the way I want to- chic, stylish, sharp – and like no one else.